Can I spill my guts a little...
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Can I spill my guts a little...
I will pre-warn you all this is personal. Its something many people I know would not share on a forum like this. But what can I say. I over-share. Fact. So its okay if you would rather not read on
A lot of you that know me know I have been trying to get pregnant. I am starting to feel so stressed about it. About the work that I need to do if I want this to happen. It will be like another job. Losing weight, getting tests, paying bills, lots of logistics to work out. And in the end it might not work. I hate failure. So I feel like I have this huge obstacle in front of me. And part of me just wants to give up now. I just don't have the energy right this minute to feel like I can do this. Does that make sense?
And I worry about what it will mean if I do all of this and it does not work. How will I feel then? How will we handle that. I guess it was easier to just be trying then to fail... if that makes any sense.
I had to say this and could not say it to anyone's face. So thank you!
A lot of you that know me know I have been trying to get pregnant. I am starting to feel so stressed about it. About the work that I need to do if I want this to happen. It will be like another job. Losing weight, getting tests, paying bills, lots of logistics to work out. And in the end it might not work. I hate failure. So I feel like I have this huge obstacle in front of me. And part of me just wants to give up now. I just don't have the energy right this minute to feel like I can do this. Does that make sense?
And I worry about what it will mean if I do all of this and it does not work. How will I feel then? How will we handle that. I guess it was easier to just be trying then to fail... if that makes any sense.
I had to say this and could not say it to anyone's face. So thank you!
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I have no words that will make it better!
mvance- Posts : 117
Join date : 2010-12-08
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Let your friends lift you up. I know of several people who KNOW you can do it, regardless of the outcome because, well, you're Jess, and you're amazing.
Love you!
Love you!
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Thanks Tess!
I think I was just bottling it all up and it finally just exploded. One step at a time, right?
I think I was just bottling it all up and it finally just exploded. One step at a time, right?
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One step at a time....that's right!
mvance- Posts : 117
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mvance wrote:One step at a time....that's right!
Thanks. I am feeling calmer now just having said something. I hope y'all don't mind being my free therapy! lol
asarasota- Posts : 1606
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My thoughts and prayers go out to you Bree. I feel for you for all that you are going through. One of my very good girlfriends has been trying to get pregnant for years and is still having trouble after having concieved and miscarried several times. It will happen when the time is right for you and just know that your friends and family have you in their prayers.
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It is so easy to get overwhelmed when looking at the HUGE picture. Take little steps at a time and you will be able to do this. You will, I have full confidence in you.
ScrapHappy- Posts : 231
Join date : 2010-12-31
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I know the road you face and I know you are one of the brightest and most determined people I know. I can imagine how overwhelming it must feel but you just need a good plan and then just take it one step at a time. And know that when you need an extra hug or pep talk or a shoulder to cryon you have friends who are here foryou.
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that is what we're here for Breezer.
if there was anything we could do, we would
for now
XOXO
if there was anything we could do, we would
for now
XOXO
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Breezer. Think about it this way.
If you try everything you can, and it still doesn't work out the way you want it---you can see it as a failure, but completely out of your control.
If you give up now, then you're just accepting failure. And that isn't you.
This is gonna be hard ass work. But you of all people can do it; and when the end of this journey comes there will be one of two outcomes. Either you will have gotten exactly what you wanted, or you will know that you can push yourself and do everything possible in order to reach a goal.
Love you so much
If you try everything you can, and it still doesn't work out the way you want it---you can see it as a failure, but completely out of your control.
If you give up now, then you're just accepting failure. And that isn't you.
This is gonna be hard ass work. But you of all people can do it; and when the end of this journey comes there will be one of two outcomes. Either you will have gotten exactly what you wanted, or you will know that you can push yourself and do everything possible in order to reach a goal.
Love you so much
Sarabear- Posts : 818
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rukristin wrote:Breezer. Think about it this way.
If you try everything you can, and it still doesn't work out the way you want it---you can see it as a failure, but completely out of your control.
If you give up now, then you're just accepting failure. And that isn't you.
This is gonna be hard ass work. But you of all people can do it; and when the end of this journey comes there will be one of two outcomes. Either you will have gotten exactly what you wanted, or you will know that you can push yourself and do everything possible in order to reach a goal.
Love you so much
Well said! The only failure is in not trying!
HappyStamper- Posts : 824
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Aww Jess Hugs Honey!!! I know it's so much easier for me to say than you to do, but sit down honey....take a deep breath and relax. Seriously just let go of that stress, there are some things that are just out of our hands....I've heard so many great success stories when women just let go and relax a little! I wish you luck my friend!!!
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And Bree! Remember that there is one really really fun part about trying to get pregnant
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(((Hugs))) Know that you have my support no matter what you decide to do. And know that I have complete faith that you are very capable of doing what must be done to become a parent and that you'll be an amazing mom.
But if you change your mind, it's also OK. There are many ways to nurture children and have them in your life without giving birth to them. Please feel free to call me anytime. Love you much!
But if you change your mind, it's also OK. There are many ways to nurture children and have them in your life without giving birth to them. Please feel free to call me anytime. Love you much!
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Bree,
I think K said it best (in both posts)!
I am here for you in any way that I can. More than anything I wish there was some way that I could just make this all work for you because I know how much it means to you. I also know how amazing you are and no matter the outcome you and Thomas are both great people and I know that you will either be great parents, or be able to make it through this not happening because you have a strong relationship.
I think K said it best (in both posts)!
I am here for you in any way that I can. More than anything I wish there was some way that I could just make this all work for you because I know how much it means to you. I also know how amazing you are and no matter the outcome you and Thomas are both great people and I know that you will either be great parents, or be able to make it through this not happening because you have a strong relationship.
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rukristin wrote:And Bree! Remember that there is one really really fun part about trying to get pregnant
Oh yea baby! I second that!
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K almost made me cry. I totally agree with everything everyone has said.
It's rough stuff but you're a fighter Bree! We all have faith in ya!
LOVE AND :hug:s
It's rough stuff but you're a fighter Bree! We all have faith in ya!
LOVE AND :hug:s
StevieK- Posts : 138
Join date : 2010-12-08
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I also have no advice but lots and lots of hugs and postivie thoughts.
I think what has been said here is wonderful and you are an amazing person.
I was told pretty much the same as you and told that unless I do all that I will never get pregnant. I chose to ignore everything and do things my way and now have two children. But everyone and everyone's body is different so i guess this is a decision you need to make.
I think what has been said here is wonderful and you are an amazing person.
I was told pretty much the same as you and told that unless I do all that I will never get pregnant. I chose to ignore everything and do things my way and now have two children. But everyone and everyone's body is different so i guess this is a decision you need to make.
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rukristin wrote:Breezer. Think about it this way.
If you try everything you can, and it still doesn't work out the way you want it---you can see it as a failure, but completely out of your control.
If you give up now, then you're just accepting failure. And that isn't you.
This is gonna be hard ass work. But you of all people can do it; and when the end of this journey comes there will be one of two outcomes. Either you will have gotten exactly what you wanted, or you will know that you can push yourself and do everything possible in order to reach a goal.
Love you so much
This is amazing!! I so totally agree.
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rukristin wrote:Breezer. Think about it this way.
If you try everything you can, and it still doesn't work out the way you want it---you can see it as a failure, but completely out of your control.
If you give up now, then you're just accepting failure. And that isn't you.
This is gonna be hard ass work. But you of all people can do it; and when the end of this journey comes there will be one of two outcomes. Either you will have gotten exactly what you wanted, or you will know that you can push yourself and do everything possible in order to reach a goal.
Love you so much
OMG, K, you nailed it right on the head.
Bree, I just want to tell you how much I love you and let you know I am here for you if you need anything!
Tamara- Posts : 528
Join date : 2010-12-09
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I have no words for you, but a hug. I think K has given wonderful advice in both posts.
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